Vanessa Soumettre for KNKI app
When regular couples are looking to ramp things up in their intimate lives, they will often take a page from the kink handbook. It makes sense after all kinky people have a ton of fun in the bedroom. If your sex life is already spicy, how do you turn things up a notch? Here are a few suggestions:
Get out of the bedroom! At the very least get out of your bedroom. You do it all of the time there. You see it everyday. You see those same sheets folded the same way and it suggests to you that the same old thing should happen. Yes it's wonderful, but it's also the same place you've been doing it the same way for the past six years. The kids are up the hallway every night and your neighbors snicker every time you take out the trash. Take your partner to the four star hotel off the interstate with the continental breakfast.
When regular couples are looking to ramp things up in their intimate lives, they will often take a page from the kink handbook. It makes sense after all kinky people have a ton of fun in the bedroom. If your sex life is already spicy, how do you turn things up a notch? Here are a few suggestions:
Get out of the bedroom! At the very least get out of your bedroom. You do it all of the time there. You see it everyday. You see those same sheets folded the same way and it suggests to you that the same old thing should happen. Yes it's wonderful, but it's also the same place you've been doing it the same way for the past six years. The kids are up the hallway every night and your neighbors snicker every time you take out the trash. Take your partner to the four star hotel off the interstate with the continental breakfast.
Pour a little vanilla into your exploits. You and your partner rejected vanilla when you entered this life. You two won't even buy vanilla ice cream any longer you're so kinky. I'm not suggesting you go full vanilla bean, instead I am reminding you of what brought you together initially. Kink is a part of your life, but only a part. Your attention and affection connected you two based on vanilla compatibility. Man cannot live on floggers alone. If it was politics that brought you together put the nipple clamps away and watch a Republican debate. If you bonded because you are both a member of Steeler Nation take your Terrible Towels to the local sports bar and cheer your team on loudly. Touching on your compatibility is a way to maintain your intimacy. When you maintain your intimacy a pleasant side effect is better physical expression of said intimacy.
Perform in front of an audience. There are play parties and dungeons all over the country. If you look around you can probably find one right in your backyard. Pack your toy bag and join your fellow kinksters. Even if you don't play in public your first night out you've added a metric to that kinky thing you do. The sights and sounds alone can be arousing. If you do get to have a public S&M scene putting on a show can be an adrenaline rush, even a natural high. You can ride that high for hours or days keeping your baseline at home on a higher level.
What are some of the ways you've flipped the kinky script with your partner?
Perform in front of an audience. There are play parties and dungeons all over the country. If you look around you can probably find one right in your backyard. Pack your toy bag and join your fellow kinksters. Even if you don't play in public your first night out you've added a metric to that kinky thing you do. The sights and sounds alone can be arousing. If you do get to have a public S&M scene putting on a show can be an adrenaline rush, even a natural high. You can ride that high for hours or days keeping your baseline at home on a higher level.
What are some of the ways you've flipped the kinky script with your partner?